Dear Maria,
Your students are so lucky to have you,
How difficult is to accept yourself when the most important person in your learning, your teacher, doesn't appreciate variety, doesn't help you to get the best out of you, doesn't give you the confidence you need to be in such a competitive world...
I'm sure they love you!
Lucia

You're so very kind Lucia...i do love them back

One more comment and then i will do what I am supposed to be doing.

I like to make a distinction between making a judgement and an assessment. In general a judgement is a determination that is set in stone. That some person has a characteristic that will never change. They are "lazy", Briliant", "Stuck up", etc. I especially find this in teaching where people have made self judgements. that they are
'unco-ordinated, or they "learn" a certain way.

I try to avoid making determinations that are final, so I say that I make assessments, which has more of a connotation of something that is likely to change. I think honesty as a teacher is vitally important, and I think that being supportive is important, so giving people feedback that is accurate, but also is focused on what is positive, and where improvements can be made makes a difference. I have found that in many cases this can help change peoples negative attitudes about how they do things. But it often...